Family and Friends You Can Make a Difference
by SIDS - advice for family and friends from parents who have lost a child, because so often when this happens, all we want to know is 'how can we 'be there' for our friend/family member...
I came across this link late in 2007, after visiting the SIDS site on recommendation from a fellow Mama
FLYlady
For when you've lost the motivation, don't know where to start, and/or are rather overwhelmed by where your house is at...
You won't know until you give it an honest go and have nothing to lose!
P.E.T. Parent Effectiveness Training
Something I found surprisingly spot on - first through the book and much later when I did the course. The goal is to 'talk so your kids will listen, and listen so your kids will talk'... and that's pretty much what happens. Highly recommended.
Free Resources for Parents.
Also try the library - 'PET Parent Effectiveness' by Dr Thomas Gordon is the book.
'On Controlled Crying'
gave me something to consolidate my gut feeling on this. Controlled Crying or 'Controlled Comforting' may work... but why...?
Babies, especially young babies, can't count. And if you know what it's like when you go to the loo, and shut the door and they get upset... it's no different. Their ability to comprehend is different, and I guess it's up to you whether the 'how' CC works is worth it.
Circumcision.
Often a very contentious topic and with good reason. The only real hurdle that seems to halt and conclude this discussion in it's tracks is that religion 'validates' circumcision, despite all arguments against circumcision (medical exception excluded). I couldn't understand this. I know there many things inflicted in the name of a 'God', but surely not this?
What kind of God requires this of a parent in order to 'prove' their faith?
If I was to form a new church tomorrow, and one of the requirements was that each parent cut off any other part of their child's body... would that be 'different'?... is it 'different' because it's a new/old religion? How can that be? Surely it is what it is. I was exremely pleased then, to come across these links:
Bris Shalom &
Bris B'lee Milah
just for a start. Anyway, I thought I'd share the link because many people come to the same crossroad in discussions, and religion seems to be used to 'silence' it - and for some it's one of many very important decisions to make as we bring new life into the world...